Over thinking and anxiety is a bitch and we all get sucked into it to varying degrees. Here’s a few suggestions you may not have tried to help you out if it’s becoming a familiar pattern in your life.
A kind friend, my doula and yoga teacher gifted me a roll on aromatherapy blend by Doterra called “Peace”. It has a calming and reassuring fragrance. A dab on my wrists or temples is tantamount to a big hug and a supportive smile to help me face the challenges of the day. Essential oils are called essential for a reason. As Doterra point out on their website “In today’s fast-paced society, it’s easy to feel anxious, overwhelmed, and fearful, no matter what your age”.
2. Rescue Remedy – get drunk on calm (not really)
I used to use Bachs Rescue Remedy around about the time I was studying for my GCSE and A-Level exams as well as throughout university. I seem to remember practically necking a bottle before my driving test and then worrying my breath smelt of alcohol. Which obviously counteracted any induced feeling of calm!
3. Sage Spray for beginners
For people who come into your life that are pessimistic and toxic, you know the ones I mean. (Everyone has two or three key life-leaches). The folks who suck the joy from you. Their pervading message is one of judgment and cynicism. They criticise, complain about others and seem to encourage you to gossip. Generally they are insecure and should be viewed with compassion but unfortunately it is also necessary to protect yourself from the residue of their negative energies. Obviously it’s not possible to conduct a Native American sage smudging ceremony to clear yourself of their energy after every encounter. So, a friend suggested I plant sage either side of my driveway. This turned out to be excellent advice. I can now smile inside in the knowledge that everyone has to drive to my house and be “cleansed” before they step foot in the door. Psychologically it’s the adult equivalent of a superhero shield, mask and cape. Whilst out and about you could carry a sage spray in your bag/pocket. If you’re not yet ready to spray away at the negative old man sat opposite you on the train, then wear a sage deodorant – M&S do a nice one by Dr Hauschka. Aesop (my favourite cosmetic brand) also do a sage scalp cleansing shampoo.
4. Repeat after me
Sometimes my physical self just doesn’t know what to do and gets in a tangle. When I’m suffocating in that knotted, frenzied state, the last resort is to stop, breathe deeply and recite a prayer or mantra.
My favourite is the serenity prayer. Remember you don’t have to be religious or believe in God to recite prayers or mantra, think of it more of a positive affirmation or just asking a friend for help. You can replace or omit the god at your discretion.
“God, grant me the serenity, to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Thy will not mine be done”. Trust me this is a game changer!
Affirmations such as “I am Enough” and “I am here, I am free” are ones I’ve been working with.
Whenever I’m disorganised and can’t find my keys or handbag or I’m stuck in traffic I always recite Ganesha’s mantra (the Hindu elephant God) “Om Gan Ganapataye Namaha”. As elephant’s clear away obstacles he is a powerful presence in getting me back on my path and moving forwards, making progress despite the obstacles.
5. Vata Oil
For those familiar with Ayurvedic doshas, I’m what is termed “Vata”. Which basically in a nutshell means I’m a born stresser, big dreamer, who floats about in her head, I’m prone to anxiety and over-thinking. So, to balance myself I diffuse a Vata Yoga Essential Oil to inhale calm at home. Literally everybody who comes to my house comments on the lovely smell. So it must work for more than just me! I bought it in India from a brand called NeoVeda by Craft House India and buy it in bulk to save on shipping when I re-stock. My tip is to invest in an electric diffuser rather than an oil burner. Neal’s Yard sell lovely ones.
6. Visualisation and Yoga
It always helps if I notice my breath, then begin to breathe deeper, as well as grounding myself by physically by having my feet rooted firmly into the ground imagining tree roots are growing out from my feet, spreading downwards and anchoring me to the earth. In terms of yoga postures, if you can get on your yoga mat; I find child’s pose (Balasana) can be very therapeutic in helping me feel “safe” as well as legs up the wall (Viparita Karani) which has a very soothing effect on the nervous system. Tree pose (Vrikasana) and Warrior III (Virabhadrasana III) also have a grounding effect.
I hope these little shares help, I’d love to know if you have any daily life survival tricks or tips. Or maybe it’s just me that needs all the help I can get?!